What many individuals miss even more than sex is touching and hugging
"Feel like Melting into each other" This says it all.
What EVERYONE needs is to be NEEDED. Every living person craves the attention one can only get through the attention of love and maybe more importantly desire. The need to be desired is so strong that is it part of our basic human make up as is sex. These are two very distinct feelings. Because so many people actually suppress this need to be desired and replace it with the feelings of "I need sex" is the basis for much confusion. Anyone, at any time can have sex. If one really tried there is certainly a way to get that. That is not what I believe is the reason first of all that you are reading my site right now. Certainly you could have moved on a long time ago after seeing so many words, no naked pictures and no proclamation of "sex now" written in the first three words of this site. You stayed on here reading because of the real need, which is the need to be desired as a man. In my opinion as a
MAN SHOULD BE DESIRED BY A WOMAN.
The reason I understand this so well is because I have taken the leap, jumped off the edge of a conservative world and embraced what I believe to be basic human needs and desires. That being the intention of Man and woman. Intertwining and swirling around together Testosterone and Estrogen without the walls that have been built up in many over a life-time. There are so many different words and written material on the art of Sex, Sensual Love-Making, Tantra, Esalen, Karezza, Dominant and Submissive the list is endless. What I believe is necessary to feel any of those things and more is the ability to connect with yourself and your sexual and sensual awareness. Your own true needs and desires.
When I say to you that my desire is to give to you that which I believe is the natural order of life, that which reaches into the very core of who I am as a woman, that which regards the beautiful difference between Man and woman as an essential life-giving force, there is only one word that comes into my mind that can without a doubt sum up what I need.
What I need as a woman is what you need as a Man.
To some it may conjure up images and thoughts of something that in the world in which we live, the busy lives we lead, the confusion we adhere to stemming from our childhood as negative. But surely, in my opinion it is the crux of all that is underlying and the basis for all of our gender confusion. I will not give you that one word yet. I will let you think about this for a few minutes.
For both Man and woman the need is the same. Only like a rainbow, each start at the opposite end. The differences that are who we are, are governed by Testosterone and Estrogen. These are the forces of the ages. The forces that have built societies and have destroyed them. Just like the rainbow at either end. The balance lies at the very top of the rainbow. Getting to that balance is harder now then ever in our human history. Just take a look at 90 percent of TV commercials on any given day. Geico is a great example; "So easy a caveman can do it" Even that denotes the simplicity that which is our ancestry. When, in fact, they are the reason we are here. They are by far the most hardy of the gene pool.
Every single Man has the "take her by force" fantasy. To stand tall and strong over her as if she were his property, his object, his responsibility, His woman! The softness that is woman calms and tames the strength that is Man. What Man has never had the fantasy of walking in the door after a long day at work to be greeted by a beautiful naked woman on her knees waiting for him, waiting to serve him. I would venture a guess and say that every man has has this thought.... Just as all women have a Rape Fantasy. If a woman denies this then she is simply denying it to herself or lying. EVERY woman has this fantasy. Why? I believe it is our NEED for testosterone. We are attracted to it. Like a bee to a flower. We need it, we want it, we crave it. PERIOD. I am not saying that women have a need to be hurt, dehumanized and treated in any way that would resemble any form of abuse. That is NOT what I'm saying. Please do not mistake this for anything more than what it is. This is a natural attraction as is a Man's attraction and need for that which we produce.
Let's get back to the "caveman"
theory, we have all heard at one time or another "grab her by the hair and drag
her back to the cave." Is this rape? No, of course not. It
simply was the way it was. After a woman was dragged back to the cave and
taken by the Man you can be assured that she did not call Gloria Allred (Woman's
rights Activist / Attorney) as soon
as he left the cave! But you can be most assured that as she was being
dragged her estrogen was flowing like a river. By the time she got back to the
cave she was dripping with need and desire. In my opinion, of course.
Okay, so you're still waiting for that "one word" which I believe sums up everything in a nutshell. The word that I believe controls and guides my daily life every single day. The one word that governs my belief system and my ability to give that which I NEED. The one word that has so many meanings on so many different levels. The one word that is the embodiment of truly realizing and embracing my own forces as a woman. That which gives me strength beyond strength, love beyond love and most importantly and inner peace that radiates from deep within me and pours out of me like sunshine. To look at a Man and see further inside of who he truly is while never even having to utter one word to him. To look into a strangers eyes and through that look give to him that knowledge with just a passing glance. With that glimmer of lust, love, need and desire transferred through only a smile. Remember, above all and beyond everything, this need stems from my desires which I will lovingly pass on to you. This desire I call................................
Who am I worshipping? My need to be a complete woman or your need to be desired by such a woman? Remember....... when you submit your mind, your body will follow. This is a two-way street. What's being worshipped here?
It is not who I'm worshipping but rather what I'm worshipping that I bring to you. That softness and genuine need to gently caress and devour all that is inherently US.
**DO NOT TAKE THIS OUT OF THE CONTEXT IT WAS INTENDED FOR**
I was extremely happy to find this collection of writings by J. William Lloyd. He explains the Karezza Method of love-making. One of which I believed in and lived on a daily basis before I even knew there was a word for it. Below is an excerpt from his 1931 private writings.
J. William Lloyd's "The Karezza Method"
What many individuals miss even more than sex is touching and hugging. Some try to satisfy this need with regular massage therapy.
I believe that regularly radiating love, and feel being loved, greatly helps to prevent and overcome cancer and other diseases. When we radiate love, we become invincible, diseases cannot touch us. Karezza helps us to learn this in an easy and pleasant way, with Karezza we can be in love everyday. When we then also learn to feel and radiate love at will in our daily activities and encounters, then we have reached the top of the spiritual mountain. Karezza or sacred sex is a pleasant and effective way to get there.
In Karezza the emphasis is on the inner feeling awareness as well as on the feeling of complete union with the partner. Orgasm is avoided or at least minimized. Caresses and slow controlled movements during intercourse generate a steady stream of sexual energy that is consciously converted into feelings of sublime joy and love. Typically, this may continue for an hour or more. It is not necessary for the penis to be erect or even inside to enjoy this type of lovemaking. Part or all of the time the tip of the penis may just touch the entrance of the vagina, or the sexual organs may not touch at all.
Initially concentrate awareness on the sensations at the point of contact with the partner, especially in the genital area but also wherever the skin or a caressing hand touches. This generates pleasant sensations, which can now easily be converted into a loving feeling. Open your heart and send this love to your partner. In a more active fashion you can in your imagination lead the energy felt in the genital or pelvic area upwards to the heart. There you feel it as love and radiate it out onto your partner, and also envelop both of you in a cloud of love.
For many sensitive individuals
this is more satisfying than just mechanically experimenting with different
positions or chasing an elusive orgasm.
When you have filled your brain and heart with pleasurable energy, move part of your attention to the spiritual love that you feel for your partner. Feel your heart expanding with a gentle love and add this to the cloud of pleasurable sexual energy that surrounds and interpenetrates both of you. Finally, without losing this special feeling, you now shift another part of your attention to the top of your head or to your crown chakra. By sending out some of the love you feel to your High Self, you immediately receive an even larger amount of spiritual love back. Feel that both of you are now connected to the love and power of your higher or divine guidance. Feel united and in harmony with all levels of your own being as well as with your partner and with your spiritual source. Feel like melting into each other. For more detailed descriptions to learn these energy meditations see the article The Love Cure as well as 'The Chakra System' in the article on Bio-energies -- Walter Last
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